Thursday, April 29, 2010

Lack of communication (otherwise entitled: Leah and Rob's Quasi-Dutch Adventure)

Today, in the shadow of ONU's new windmills, Robert Allen and I tiptoed through (okay, past) the tulips on an ultimately fruitless adventure quest to find the fabled noontide Ableism speaker. (Unfortunately, neither of us had wooden shoes. It was unfortunate.) We knew that there would be a speaker at some point in the day based on an abundance of 8 1/2 x 11 posters tacked to all available boards around campus... unfortunately, said posters failed to mention a time or place for the event.

So, being the diligent students that we are (and wanting to satisfy our requirements for O'C), we hoofed it to McIntosh to start our search for the event. No luck. It was not in the Wishing Well, it was not in the Activities Room, it was not in the Ballroom, it was in none of the upstairs conference rooms... So we continued our quest by advancing to a new location: the library. Although the library desk workers were very kind and tried their best to be helpful, it was to no avail. The speaker was not in the library. The desk worker recommended we search the Chapel.

And we did. No luck. The only yield from that dead end was a pamphlet on religious tolerance, which we perused as we continued our quest to Mathile. Again, fruitless. We checked Meyer-- likewise, no. Unable to think of any better strategy, we checked at the Mac desk. Nope, no Ableism speaker scheduled for anyplace that the Mac desk schedules. The worker recommended we check Dicke.

...And we did. Nothing. At this point, it was a half hour after the event supposedly started, so we discontinued our search.

Although I didn't end up attending the Ableism speaker, this experience has made me consider apathy from another angle. Perhaps it's not always that people are apathetic-- perhaps it is simply that the communication is missing.

Example: Most people would likely agree that genocide is more pressing an issue than the fate of dolphins in Japan. However, Japanese cruelty to dolphins somehow gets more press than genocide. Why? I think it is the communication element. Firstly, people can identify with dolphins. They're cute like Flipper and they swim. Okay. They live in a happy little world of ocean and porpoises. Okay. And then a certain Japanese industry comes and kills them. NOT OKAY. People can show images of carved up, dead dolphins. Audiences are appalled. "Not the cute dolphins!"

Now: genocide. One, it's difficult to identify with victims of genocide. We are used to living a life that is removed from violence or serious harm. We have a hard time putting ourselves in the shoes of those who live in constant fear. Secondly, it's more difficult to broadcast images of desecrated human bodies than desecrated dolphin bodies. Dolphin bodies make people angry. Human bodies make people scared. Nightmares are involved.

My conclusion? Apathy for genocide and interest for dolphins are created because of effective communication. Given, it is more *difficult* to communicate the problem of genocide than of dolphin-cide (I don't quite understand why, but it is). Maybe this is an extreme example, and I haven't necessarily worked out all the kinks of this analogy, but I think I'm making a valid point.

It's all communication. If the Ableism speaker had a poor turnout, I'm willing to bet it was because of poor communication. Robert Allen and I would have been there if we had been provided with a date or time.

Also, I think this ties in with my theory of apathy as a defense mechanism. We can't care about everything; our default is to not care until an issue becomes relevant to us. Duh. That makes sense. So the challenge is for advocates to make issues relevant their audience. An advocate's job is to make people care-- to break the apathy. This is done through clear and effective communication. Note the "and effective." Clear communication is one thing; effective communication is something more entirely. You can clearly communicate facts, but until you make those facts relevant to my life, I'm likely to take the bait.

And that's the point of advocacy-- or awareness, I guess. To make something relevant enough that another person becomes interested in it, or another person changes their behavior because of it. If Unite for Awareness week has a low turnout, it is not exclusively the fault of students who are apathetic. It is also in part because the relevancy of these events has not been clearly expressed.

This ties in to Steve's idea that apathy can be a good thing in determing what is and isn't an issue. If a talk about sex has a huge turnout, but a talk about bullying does not, that is probably telling you that college students see sex as a more relevant issue in their lives than bullying. That doesn't necessarily mean that bullying should not be addressed, but it indicates that the issue should definitely be looked at more closely to find the angle that will mean something to its audience.

In sum: apathy is not just the fault of people who don't show up for events. Most people have something the care about-- it just might not be the same issue that you want them to care about. It takes clear and effective communication in order to convince others to take up a particular cross. Crosses are heavy.

Further summation: Windmills and tulips... I feel like I should learn some Dutch. Or at least get a cool Dutch girl hat.

End note: Thanks to a saving phone call from Carol, I discovered that the event was actually at 4:30 p.m. in Mac Activities, so I did get to attend! It wasn't overly dynamic, but it was well presented. Essentially, the presenter, a teacher at Marimor in Lima, showed a video and discussed how to treat those with physical or developmental disabilities. It's mostly common sense-- treat everyone as a competent human being. We watched a ridiculously corny video about disability awareness, which was entertaining. A man from Lima who cannot speak delivered a speech via voice machine. That was pretty cool. A girl with a skin disorder spoke about her problems. As to audience, probably more than a dozen and less than twenty were in attendance. All but four of them, I believe, were physical therapy majors. Due to the poor publicity for the event, I have reason to believe that the point was not to attract a bunch of people, but to cater specifically to pre-physical therapy students, who are likely to encounter developmentally disabled clients in their careers. To that end, it was great-- those attending had pertinent questions and seemed genuinely interested. I don't see this as an example of apathy so much as an example of targeting a specific audience and catering to their concerns-- probably a better strategy, in this case, than generalization.

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Sibling Appreciation

When my brother was born, I cried.

My grandma brought two-year-old me to the hospital and my mom showed me a new, tiny baby and said, “Look, Leah. This is Weston.”

I barely glanced at the baby in her arms. Okay, this was Weston. That was what Mom and Dad said they would name the baby if it was a brother. But if it was a sister, they were going to name her Claire. So naturally, the first words out of my toddler mouth were “Mommy, where’s Claire?"

The confused conversation that followed went something like this:

Mom: “We didn’t get a Claire, honey. We got a Weston.”
Me: (sobbing) “But I wanted a Claire!!!!”
Grandma: (leading me out of the room)

I can just imagine how fun that was for my parents. When my other brother was born, I was six years old. And there were probably two reasons why I didn’t cry about his gender: a) I had already been disappointed once, and didn’t expect much this time around; b) I had found a patch of poison ivy the day before, and I was so swollen that the only way my mom could recognize me was by my dress and pigtails. I bet that was fun for my parents, too.

In spite of my sobs and shenanigans, respectively, at my brothers’ births, and despite my intense disappointment at the realization that I would have to tough it out as the “only girl,” I’m glad I got two brothers. After all, would I have learned all the original Pokemon by name if I had been blessed with a Claire? Would I have watched Power Rangers or learned to play baseball? I doubt it. I might have had a better handle on fashion, but I would have missed out on frog-hunting expeditions and learning how not to be grossed out by fish worms.

So here’s to you, Weston and Daniel. Thanks for teaching me that there is more to life than Barbies and French braids. Thank you for teaching me that being older does not mean being taller. Thank you for demonstrating that yes, a 12-year-old wrestler can flip his 18-year-old sister over his back, and with little difficulty. Thank you for sharing your love of all things amphibious and all things sports, even if it didn’t always rub off. At the very least, I think frogs are cute and that Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles are a million times cooler than Polly Pocket.

What makes you thankful for your siblings? Whether it’s your little brother, big sister, or some variation on that theme, take some time out this week and let them know why you admit to being related to them—or just let them know you thought about them today. Because even if you didn’t get that Claire you wanted… well, having a Weston worked out pretty well after all.

End note: This story is the basis for the URL of my blog. It is not, however, related to the title of my blog. "Sister for Sale" takes its name from a Shel Silverstein poem, linked here.

Further note: apologies to Lydia. This is not new material.

Friday, April 23, 2010

OMG Rediculous...

Sorry for the series of short posts lately, but I have a very important public service announcement to make. In fact, it deserves being written in all capital letters.

THE WORD RIDICULOUS IS NOT SPELLED WITH AN E.

R-I-D-I-C-U-L-O-U-S.

PLEASE STOP MISSPELLING THIS WORD.

That is all.

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Runways rediscover curves

Is this article true?

If so, that puts me... 4 sizes closer to being the same size as a model.

Could this be an indirect social consequence of the recession? Or maybe just a general consensus that anorexia actually *doesn't* look good on anyone.

The Land of Joy.. and Joy-ness...

EVERYBODY FREEZE. I just found out that there is an online community of people who APPRECIATE CROSSWORD PUZZLES. And it includes more people than just me and my grandpa.

Why am I so excited about this? Because now I know there are people out there who would sympathize with me when I complain about what crap USA Today puzzles are, and who would NOT counter my whining about not being able to create crosswords with the ever-present information that "there are computer programs that just make them for you, you know." (NOOOOO! Computer programs are not okay! That's like saying that artistic masterpieces can be created with presets on Paint. This recommendation hurts my soul.) These are people who notice the themes in crossword puzzles and expect the individual clues to play into the theme like the notes in a symphony or a fugue or something that produces a similar gestalt effect.

Check out this link, which began my enlightenment. (And this one, just because I think the header is cute.)

Regardless, I'm thrilled to learn that there is a whole world of crossword puzzle nerds out there. I am in no way to their level, but I hope to someday join their ranks. These people are smart-approaching-Mensa-levels, sophisticated, witty, creative, and clever. They find joy in a beautifully-constructed challenge of spelling and synonyms. Ahh. Pure bliss.

And, for the non-nerds in my audience, here is the inspiration for the title of this post. Just for kicks.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Surprisingly critical

Before you read this blog, please read this article about Mark Twain. It's from the New York Times.

I'm confused as to why the author of this article acts like it's big news that Mark Twain wrote critique in the margins of books he read. Does the general public really think that being a writer is something completely different from being an editor or a critic? Do writers really think that?

I hope not. I firmly believe that it is a writer's job to be a jack-of-all-trades: creative writer, technical writer, reporter, editor, critic, evaluator. If it's print on paper, writers should be familiar with it: how to interpret it, how to write it, and how to make it better. I admit, my career goal may make me biased: I want to be an editor. So obviously I'm fixated on learning how to fix things.

But at the same time, in order to do something well, you must understand what it means for something to be good. You must be able to evaluate others' work and decide what qualifies as good and bad in order to develop an idea of what you want to write and who you want to emulate. A writer can't improve until he or she knows how they can improve. Being an editor is necessary in order to improve as a writer-- and in order to be as successful an important a writer as Mark Twain, you have to be one hell of a self-editor.

I apologize for the somewhat questionable line of reasoning-- it's midnight, and I'm not waxing as concisely as I normally manage. But the point remains: a good writer HAS to be a good editor. So why is it surprising that Mark Twain-- one of America's most celebrated writers-- is also a critic? He has to be in order to practice his craft with such a degree of success.


Friday, April 16, 2010

Duck and Cover

I feel as if I'm slacking. In March, I did a good job of updating this blog regularly. This month, I've fallen behind.

But I have a legitimate reason: April is national explosive awareness month. ...Okay, not really. But ever since high school, I have noticed that absolutely everything that is even remotely important happens in April. (Well, except for Christmas. Thank goodness.) I'm not exactly sure why, but EVERYTHING happens in April. In the words of my friend Sarah, "the world explodes in April."

In honor of April and any subsequent detonation, here is a video that I highly recommend. It's called 'Duck and Cover.' (Source: YouTube)


Monday, April 12, 2010

Happy 110th, submariners!

Lucky you: for this post, I'm taking a break from my usual informative habits, and instead am just going to tell you what I did this weekend.

First, some background. My friend Megan (center, below) is married to Brad, who is a submariner in the Navy. Until she finishes her bachelor's degree this summer, Meg is living in Ohio while Brad is living 12 hours away in Connecticut at the sub base. Long story short, Meg called me a couple weeks ago and asked if I wanted to be her driving buddy to go to the April 10 Navy ball. I mean, how many people have the opportunity to go to a Navy ball in their lifetime? Of course I said yes.

The thing about going to the Navy ball is that you have to be accompanied by a sailor. And since Brad has more than one friend who would have appreciated a date, Meg invited my friend Kait (left, below) to come, too.

I've known Megan since preschool and I've known Kait since first grade. We can get a little ridiculous. Anyway, this is us:Meg and Kait picked me up in Ada at 2 p.m. on Friday and we headed out for Connecticut. I drove through Pennsylvania. Pennsylvania is a very wide state. Four or five hours wide, in fact. (But at least I didn't have to drive through New York or Jersey!) We ended up pulling into Brad's house in CT at about 1 a.m. Then we went to sleep, because after twelve hours of travel, that's all you really want to do. Brad and Meg are in the process of moving into their house, which is a very nice size, so there were a lot of boxes everywhere. The only real furniture they had was a sectional that was big enough for about four people to sleep end-to-end, which was a lucky break for Kait and I, because their floors are tile. ...Anyway.

On Saturday, we went with Brad and Megan to visit a Siberian husky breeder in order to pick out a puppy. There were a lot of puppies. I'm not a dog person, but after spending time with the puppies, I almost wanted one of my own. They were really sweet. (Although some of them had just opened their eyes, so when you held them they started screaming because they were scared of heights. It was cute, but very loud.) Brad and Meg picked out a black and white puppy. They christened her Maya. She's sweet. They get to take her home in mid-May.

By the time we got back from the puppy excursion, it was time to get ready for THE NAVY BALL. Woohoo! So... we did that. The men looked very sharp in their dress blues. (Note: Navy uniform pants have 13 buttons instead of a fly. Megan calls them birth control pants-- 13 chances to say "no!") Me, Kait, and Megan looked very sharp in dresses. Because, you know, we're not in the Navy and could wear whatever we wanted.

Brad's friends Daniel and Kevin were Kait and mine assigned dates for the night. It was awkward. But hey, it was a Navy ball, so the novelty totally made up for it.

The ball was the 110th celebration of submarines. The ball involved a three-hour dinner program and then dancing and such. (In the end, we left after dinner and skipped the dancing. We proceeded to have our own party back at Brad and Meg's house.) The program honored submarines lost in the line of duty, from pre-WWI to the present. Cadets from the Naval academy did a choreographed salute thing (not really sure what to call it) which was cool. We met a LOT of sailors.

At Brad and Meg's, we played cards and took photos and generally had a good time. I went to bed at 3 in the morning... and woke up at 9 a.m. to pack and leave for Ohio by 10. Good times, though.

The drive back was pretty much just like the drive there. Let me just say that I love car trips. I like looking out the window and seeing new things, I like the drama of trying to pass other drivers/avoid cops/stay on the road/navigate new places, I like spending time talking or listening to the radio or singing or being ridiculous. So the drive back was a fun time. We stopped and had a picnic at a rest stop in Pennsylvania because the weather was so beautiful and because we had stuff to make sandwiches. Yum! In the words of Kait: "This rest stop is so nice. It has picnic tables... and butterflies..."

All in all, the weekend was really fun. It had car trips... and dress blues... and a once-in-a-lifetime (probably) opportunity to attend a Navy ball. :)

Note for those who care: I made my dress. I'm most proud of this because I didn't use a pattern. Epic win! During the ball, this led to an involved discussion between me and the sailors about sewing. They have to sew a lot of patches and etc. on their uniforms. Too bad they are a little skittish around sewing machines...

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Grace Kelly

Besides "Killer Queen," which I love, my favorite song is probably Mika's Europop hit "Grace Kelly." In case you don't know the song, this is it:

My friend Kait brought this song to my attention after she spent some time in Paris, France. Apparently they played this song all over the subways. It's pretty catchy.

Anyway, back to the point. After listening to Grace Kelly, I naturally wanted to know who Grace Kelly was. This, therefore, is Grace Kelly:

Grace Kelly (1929-1982) was an American actress and, by her 1956 marriage to Prince Rainier III, Princess of Monaco. She was ranked number 13 on the American Film Institute's 1999 list of top female American stars. Kelly's film career began in 1951 at age 22. Kelly's films include "Rear Window," "To Catch a Thief," "High Noon," and "Dial M for Murder."

Despite her later station as Princess of Monaco, Grace Kelly's acting career was riddled with scandal. The tabloids linked her to nearly every big-name actor of her day.

Kelly met Prince Rainier in April 1955 when she was the American deleate to the Cannes Film Festival, held in Monaco. Rainier proposed to Kelly in December that year while he was touring the United States. They were married April 15, 1956. Kelly and Rainier's marriage produced three children: Caroline, Albert II, and Stephanie.

Besides being an icon of style, Grace Kelly was also a noted philanthropist. In 1964 she founded the Princess Grace of Monaco Foundation, a charity to help children with disabilities or special needs not covered by social services. The Princess Grace Foundation-USA was created after Kelly's death to further the arts in the United States through fellowships, scholarships, and assistantships.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

The History of Sex... kind of

For my roommate’s birthday, I gave her a pretty spectacular gift (if I say so myself): The History of Sex, in DVD form, courtesy the History Channel online shop. Besides being a good conversation starter (“I see you have… the History of Sex… on your end table…”), the set of documentaries are really interesting. Subsets of history include the ancient world, the eastern world, the middle ages, “From Don Juan to Queen Victoria,” and the 20th century.


“From Don Juan to Queen Victoria” was by far the most interesting of the documentaries. It covers… well, Don Juan to Queen Victoria. Fictional libertine Don Juan, created in the mid-1600s, began the documentary with a characterization of the liberal 17th-century mindset. To make a long story short, there was a lot of sleeping around.


Which makes it all the more stranger to see the end of this chapter in The History of Sex. By the time the late 1800s roll around, women can’t even show their ankles. The program documents instances of married women who didn’t know what sex was. I’m still not sure how that happens, but hey. As they say, truth is stranger than fiction.


Most people know, or have heard, that Queen Victoria was famous for being a prude. But that doesn’t completely explain the late-1800s attitude that sex = taboo. How can a society go from free-for-all-skirts-around-your-ears to strait-laced Puritans in a mere 200-300 years? Take modern society: each generation is successively more permissive than those before it. (Imagine watching a movie like… say, Zombieland, with your mom. Feel a little awkward? I mean, I know it did when I watched Zombieland with my mom yesterday.) Back to the task at hand. How does a generation go from syphilis-ridden to sex-free if the normal trend is in the other direction?


According to The History of Sex, the reason for this prudence is economic. It is between Don Juan and Queen Victoria that the middle class starts to emerge. And as the middle class gains wealth, they want to be equal to the ruling class. Unfortunately, as The Great Gatsby can attest, old money likes new money about as much as Democrats like Sarah Palin. Money wasn’t enough to make the rich folks accept them, so the middle class reverted to other tactics. If they couldn’t be the upper class’s equals, they would just be better.


The way to be better, in the eyes of the middle class, was to be better-behaved. So instead of raking in the cash, the ratcheted up the rules. They created the angel in the house, the virginal, modest, chaste image of womanly perfection, in retaliation against not being let in to the exclusive clubs of aristocracy. And society has been sexually frustrated ever since. (I’m fairly certain that this is also where get obsessive etiquette, a la Emily Post. Oh, emerging middle class, how can we ever thank thee?)


But at least we have a sense of irony. As society becomes more liberal, we get boutiques like Victoria’s Secret—which, incidentally, takes its name from the same prudish queen who lent her moniker to Victorian Era. Yep: I imagine Queen Victoria is rolling over in her grave every time someone unhooks one of her secrets.

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Project

I want to try this. Who wants to help me?

http://familyfun.go.com/crafts/ice-candle-673590/

Pretty sure I have paraffin wax. All systems go.